Being a first time mom is hard. What helped you as you adjusted to your new role?
We had a lot of challenges with my pregnancy and even bringing Lee home. My husband is a surgical resident who works crazy hours and we live very far away from family.
My husband was so lucky to get a week vacation off of work to help, but that first and second week of having Lee all alone was so tough. I felt like I was going to mess something up. What helped me was just remembering that this sleepless/crazy phase was so temporary.
Every time I got up to feed him was a little victory and little progression toward being a little bigger and a little more mature. I think just getting in the mindset of “this moment or phase is temporary” is really great to remember for first time moms.
What helped me was just remembering that this sleepless/crazy phase was so temporary.
How do you find balance and make time for yourself as a new mother?
I’m lucky Lee put himself on a pretty good sleep schedule especially for a little preemie! But I just try to plan my week out to use his sleep and wake times wisely, since I’m also working running my own graphic design studio.
But I try to keep one or two sleep periods free a week for me. One of those free periods is always to do my nails. I feel the whole world could be crumbling around me, but if I have my nails done I feel a little more in control.
What do you and Lee like to do together?
We love bath time, porch sitting, and walking around our little New York village! I think just after being in the NICU for 7 weeks, which I know is so short compared to how long other sweet babies have to be in intensive care, it is so nice to be able to be out and about in the fresh air.
What is your favorite thing about being a mom?
Oh gosh! It is so hard to think about just one thing because so many little moments are struggle and reward, but I think the most rewarding part of being a mother is the ability to shape a generation.
The moments of humble work that make up our days — the sacrifice of precious sleep, the endless piles of laundry, the infectious giggles, the hum of the Medela, the quiet prayers whispered— these mundane little moments nourish and form our little ones who, due to our example and efforts, will one day hopefully contribute to the world in a true and beautiful way.
…everyone pretty much feels like they are failing the first night the baby is home.